ethics class

something very interesting happened today..in ethics class...we had a debate between ourselves on some topics..and during the second debate, we discussed about IVF from islamic point of view, which is totally out of the topic..our ethic's tutor (i forgot his name!!) was interested knowing that in islam, a couple must use their own sperms/eggs for IVF process. We are not allowed to use others/donor's sperms/eggs for fertilization.

Curiously, he asked us whether we(islam) can adopt children and we answered yes! And he asked us what's the difference between adopted child and the child produced from IVF using donors' sperm/egg?? and i answered that the child produced are outside of marriage ,which is prohibited...and then he asked again, "so, it is similar to adultery??as if the child was created from adultery??" and i, without thinking much, nodded my head..

He then said something about the history of adultery, which i can't remember and said that adultery was prohibited because it is like breaking a promise to your partner and bla bla bla (i didn't pay any attention during this part). he asked again, saying that people enjoy the thing when they commit adultery but IVF is not an 'enjoyable' process. in fact, it is a difficult process."

I was thinking about telling him that IVF using donor's sperms/eggs will going to make the 'keturunan' thing get more complicated (you know, marriage between siblings can occur ) but i don't know how to use the correct sentence to make him understand. So i hesitated. Then Iiman
explained to him about the 'keturunan' thing and the marriage between siblings, which made me rase lega cause somebody was there to explained it to him..

Being an ethics tutor had somehow developed his critical thinking, so he asked again, what if the NHS system can ensure you that the donor will not be someone related to you, and the marriage between siblings can be avoided??err.... *complete silence* Fandi tried to explain about the naming in islam (bin/binti), saying that there will be some confusion in it but somehow i think it is not enough to convince him...

i felt very frustrated (geram sangat2) to myself because i am unable to explain those stuff to the tutor, which may trigger him to think about the beauty of islam..nampak sangat x ckup ilmu even to explain simple thing like that..haih~i need to learn more....

oh, yeah..by the way, the debate topics were very interesting..it was different with our(malay) thinking..somehow it has trigger my mind to think from the point of view of other people(locals especially) and some issues here. these are the topics:

• this house believes that Parliament should pass a law permitting the sale of non-regenerative organs
• this house believes that couples should not get cheaper IVF treatment in return for egg donation
• this house believes that the UK should adopt an opt-out system for cadaveric organ donation (trust me, opt-out system was very interesting!!!)
• this house believes that embryos should not be created unless it is intended that they be implanted
• this house believes that there should be no need for consent for the use of anonimysed human tissue for research once it has been legitimatey taken as a pathological specimen

you guys should take some times and think about these topics so that you can activate your critical thinking..(yeah, it is like the TOK thingie...)

Sedarllah diri Syamin!!!

i always look down on students(those who studies overseas) who miss home(malaysia) so much!! I never understand why they are homesick, missing malaysia delicacies, and other stuff. And i was thinking, 'Hujan emas di negeri orang, hujan batu di negeri sendiri, cm lebih baik di negara orang je..' or as the saying goes, 'the grass is always greener on the other side'. I mean, except from the absence of family, it is way nicer and happier to live here compared to Malaysia.

I visited at a friend's hostel in castle leazes just now. It was then it dawned upon me that I am wrong. Very wrong indeed. I failed to look on the situation from different side of view. I failed to understand what they felt (empathy). I failed to consider their situation. I failed to fullfill these criteria, which is the criteria of a good doctor.

Just then, it struck me that I was bragging over the rezeki that I have. They don't have the large and comfy flat the way I have it. They don't have the opportunity to cook the way I do. They don't have the peacefullness the way I do. They don't have the comfortable zone, being surrounded with familiar faces the way I do. I realized that I am not being grateful towards the 'nikmat' that Allah SWT gave me. Instead, I was bragging over it by looking down on them. I was 'takabur with all the things or 'kemudahan' that i've got.

And I was grateful to Allah SWT for the opportunity for me to 'menyedarkan diri'. Syukur Alhamdulillah. And also to all the things that make my life much more easier. Thank you Allah..

2 x 5 ???

I had a hospital visit in Sunderland Hospital yesterday and i got to interview one of the patients there..the patient suffered mild stroke couple of weeks ago but he seemed fine. Interviewing the patient was a bit difficult though. Living here for almost 2 months, I am so used to the friendly and talkative folks around here. The locals here seems to be the 'I-don't-mind-sharing-anything-with-you' type.

Thus, I was expecting the patient (to be professional, lets call him Mr. X) to have jolly expression and eager to talk to us. Mr. X is not the type of person that shares things with you. He answered all the questions that with a simple sentence and didn't elaborate more (even to an open questions!!). In malay we called it as 'tanye sepatah, jawab sepatah'. Hurm..maybe he was having difficulty with his speech, I mean, he had a stroke! well of course that had somehow affected him in terms of talking and limits his activity. But I can't hide my dissapointment knowing that the other students were excited and were having fun interviewing their patient. Haih~ What can I do, I just can't hear any whispering from the lady luck...

Back at home, I was thinking about the patient's atitude and behavior. On reflection (Bradley will love this!!) I realised that his behavior is just the same as mine. Being an introvert person, hesitate to share anything about yourself because you thought it won't make any difference telling others what you feel,etc is one of my major characteristic. And my heart was yelling at myself, 'Ko cakap orang tu x friendly, senyap, bla bla bla, tapi ko same je!!'

And I hate having to face those kind of people. And the quiet and awkward situation. Meaning..I hate myself more for being one of those people. It is difficult for other peole to understand you and talk to you. It is as if there is a huge barrier between you and other people. And in the end, it makes you a loner. You will feel lonely and nobody cared about you.

Although the interview didn't go much as i expected, I learnt something new. Something that has a huge impact on me. I need to change. No more senyap2, shy2, too secretive, too cautios of what others were thinking of me, and be brave to express yourself. And like what Azwan used to tell me, 'SMILE' always..because it's going to make your face expression less 'scary'...haha..InsyaAllah these changes will bring the positive side of me and brighten up my life (I wish!!)

forgetful

been totally forgetful this week;

1. totally forgot about the existance of the exam card..i thought i've thrown it out. after doing a bit of 'selongkar' here and there during the weeknd, i still can't find it. in the end, i found it. it was safely and neatly kept in my purse
2. forgot to put my name for the english class homework
3. forgot where i put the padlock. kelam kabut cari padlock on monday for the anatomy class. found it inside my bag all along
4. forgot to save the assignment after editing it for 2 hours.haih~ have do start it all over again..stress!!
5. forgot to bring the super important file to anatomy class..and i have to run back to the flat to get it within 5 minutes(or less!!)..rase cm bodoh je lari pagi2 tue..

i know..human are forgeful...that's the nature of human created by God..however, as the saying goes.."Islam itu mudah"...Allah never wanted to burden us..that's why the doa qunut exist..He knows that we are not perfect..

Since we are very forgetful, we need constant reminders..reminders can be in any form, from anyone, as long as it is a good one, the one that can lead us closer to Allah..

"berpesan kepada kebaikan dan mencegah kemungkaran"

(i forgot the term in arabic:- i need a reminder on this as well)

demi masa. sungguh, manusia berada dalam kerugian.kecuali org2 yg beriman dan mengerjakan kebajikan serta saling menasihati dgn kebenaran dan saling menasihati dgn kesabaran. (surah Al-Ashr)

ps: sorry. i want to translate it into english but i am afraid my translation can go wrong. next time i'll find the english translation of the quran..

hesitation leads to changes??

since the discovery of this blog by *Mr. WC, *Mr. ZJ and *Mr. FW and maybe few others who live nearby last week, i was kind off a bit hesitated to write more in this blog. i mean, they are going to read those craps and knowing that, i can't face them!! it's sort of humiliation!!(thank God Mr. DW didn't discover this blog yet; otherwise i have and need to change school!!). since i can't seem to get away from them, i was thinking about doing some 'penapisan' when i wrote something.

so don't be surprised if this blog is going to have general topic, unlike the previous post..i know it sounds boring but i'm going to crack my head up and magically turn those boring topic into a very interesting and hilarious discussion (coz i can't stand boring stuff either!!).

*bukan name sebenar